By Hussein Manack
The Three Beliefs (Three P's) that Lead to Helplessness and How to Fix Them
That a problem is Permanent.
Once you believe that a situation is permanent you stop working at it and do nothing to improve or overcome it.
Fix it by:
- refusing to see any problem as permanent,
- believe that the bad times will pass just as summer is around the corner and the sun will always rise the next morning after the darkness of the night.
Belief 2
That the problem is Pervasive.
Once you generalize a problem in one area by allowing it to enter into other areas of your life, you could soon become helpless.
Fix it by:
- refusing to allow a problem in one area of your life, i.e., failure at school or a divorce, to pervade or control other areas of your life or even your entire life,
- regard every problem as a challenge that can be tackled individually.
Belief 3
That all problems are Personal.
If you believe that your problems make you a failure, you may feel overwhelmed and begin to lose self-confidence.
Fix it by:
- refusing to allow a failure or mistakes in one area of your life to mean that you are worthless or a failure as a person,
- seeing each problem in perspective.
